Divorce victims

Divorce victims and Effects of divorce on women and The risks of divorce on the child, Maintain a good relationship with your ex-wife, 

Divorce victims

When marital life is collapsed, all corrective means are destroyed and life becomes unjust and torment to all family members, divorce comes as the last remedy to relax the soul from harm and the conflict ends. But this issue must be taken into consideration and in a serious way, not by joking.

Divorce has serious consequences for spouses and children. They are the victims who will lose the warmth of the family and the family atmosphere .. And they face many difficulties that negatively affect their psychological and social compatibility.

Divorce may lead to a disruption in the child’s personality development, weak self-confidence, and feelings of anxiety, low ambition, less desire for work and achievement, and weak academic achievement. The impact of divorce on children continues in adolescence, as they do not trust themselves or parents, and they are overwhelmed by suspicion and pessimism, and exaggerate rebellion, negativity, and daydreaming.

The primary goal is to alleviate the emotional suffering that occurs to these children, and the primary way to achieve this is to help the child maintain a strong and ongoing relationship with both of his parents, and the following recommendations help to achieve this:

* Maintaining the stability of the child:

The child must remain in or near the same house, and the slighter the change, the child will be able to cope more with the ordeal of his parents' divorce, and if this is not possible,

then at least the child should be left in the same school with his teachers and friends even if Temporarily, you must assure the child that his or her standard of living may decrease while trying to provide him with the essentials of food, clothing, and shelter.

* Reassuring the child:

the child needs both of his parents, and young children become disturbed upon the divorce of their parents, for fear that either of them will abandon them; so it must be confirmed to them that they will always keep in touch with both of them, a known and fixed time must be set for the visit, and the guardian of the children from the parents It strongly supports this approach, and prefers to spend a full day every week or two with the child over urgent snapshots.

 Try not to be busy with many things on this day, and if there is more than one child, it is imperative that the visitor from the parents spend the same time with each child, so that there is no feeling of preferring one over the other.

Children will be looking forward to these visits, so they must adhere to and not disrupt them, in addition to remembering the holidays, parties, and other events of the child and both parents must work to make these visits happy and enjoyable for the child.

* Find a replacement:

Ask relatives or one of the older brothers or sisters to volunteer to spend time with the child in the event that the parents are not concerned with the children, and you must show the child that his father (or his mother) is not able to visit him at the present time, given his busyness By solving some of his problems, and you can't do anything to change that.

* Assuring children that they are not responsible for the divorce of their parents:

Children often feel guilty, believing that they have somehow caused their parents to divorce, and in this case, they need to reassure them and assure them that they have nothing to do with the occurrence of this divorce and that this is better than continuing the relationship with problems.

* Convincing the child that divorce is a final thing:

some children may relate to the hope that the relationship between their parents can be restored, and this separation is considered a temporary condition, but clarifying the matter to the child that divorce is a final matter helps the child to accept the matter quickly and live with it realistically.

* Protecting a child's positive feelings towards his parents:

The parent who takes care of the child and the guardianship must mention the good qualities on the other (separate) side, and there is no need to inform the child about the negative feelings towards this party (where these feelings can be vented for one of the adults and not with the children), so discrediting the other party His contempt for the child reduces the child’s pride and self-confidence and puts him under greater suppression and pressure.

The child should not be pushed towards prejudice to one side, as he must be righteous to his parents without prejudice, and he must love both even if the parents do not love each other.

* Maintaining natural education in both homes:

Children need a steady and steady educational system. Excessive pampering and high tolerance by one parent makes raising a child and cultivating it difficult on the other side. Constant competition to win the love of the child by giving him gifts and special privileges may spoil the child's behavior.

* The other party should not be interviewed about children's affairs in his presence:

Children get sad when they see their parents quarrel, and it is important not to argue over matters related to a child's visit, custody, or expense in his presence.

* Trying to avoid conflicts that may arise over child custody:

The child is in urgent need of a sense of stability; therefore, the custody of the child must not be disputed unless the other party to which the child falls under his guardianship causes obvious damage or repeated harassment to the child, while false accusations of physical or sexual harm to the child cause severe feelings of the child And if it is possible, then the brothers (that is, some of them go with one of the parents and the rest with the other) will not be separated except after reaching adolescence, and express their preference for living with one party and not the other.

Now I will explain everything to you in separate points

What should the father do

What will happen with the mother

I will talk about everything that could happen

Effects of divorce on women   

Divorce

Although divorce in a number of cases has a realistic reason, divorce comes in cases of severe harm to the husband or wife, but divorce has negative consequences for both men, women, and children if they are present, and because a woman is known with emotions and she carries more affected by divorce even If it was she who requested it.  

Divorce is one of the things that cause problems for women more than men, as the first stage after divorce begins with a woman feeling dissatisfied for social reasons that may make it worse, as many see that a divorced woman is wrong, in addition to that it may be a burden on her family in particular if If she does not have a job that brings money, she will be able to provide for her needs and the needs of her children if any

Effects of divorce on women

With all of the above, a divorced woman may enter into a psychological state that may develop to reach the level of severe depression, with the inability to face society and those around her, and questions for children about the reason for living without their father increases her tiredness and fatigue. When a woman chooses her life partner, whatever the reason for her marriage, she searches for safety, affection, comfort, and love from this husband, and when these matters that are essential to the success of any marriage are absent, she resorts to divorce to reduce the harm caused by this marriage, but once the divorce occurs even She finds that she has faced problems, perhaps greater, and each divorce has different circumstances.

. Make most of your attention focused on your children, how to raise them, provide for their needs, and make up for the shortfall in their distance from their father.

Tips for the divorced lady

A divorced woman is advised to follow certain methods that help her accept the order and continue her life

Try not to put yourself in the cycle of constantly thinking about what happened, so that you do not suffer from a bad psychological state that you may not be able to get out of.

Bringing your family together will help you cope with the bad mood your divorce has caused.

Try to find a job

If you really do, try to use your time at work instead of sitting and thinking about something that is not useful. Divorce has already happened, and there is no reason for your tiredness to think about what happened and passed.

*The effect of divorce on children and the risks of separation on the life of the child:

Parents separation, the effect of divorce or separation on children's mental health, the child's personality affected by divorce and the separation of parents, how to deal with the child after divorce

* Feelings of the child after the divorce:

Feeling a loss ... the first thing a child suffers after separation

The Royal College of Psychiatrists emphasizes in the results of many of its research that the separation of parents after the love ends between them or rather when their relationship reaches a level that does not allow them to return makes the child feel that his life has been turned upside down, and the child's feeling of distress increases in a manner that varies according to the way of his parents' separation The child’s age and ability to understand the issue, in addition to the support he receives from his parents, family, and friends.

Feelings of loss and insecurity in the life of the child after his parent's divorce

Feeling a loss, this is what is meant by the end of the relationship and separation, for the child does not lose here merely a house, but loses belonging and safety, as the way of his life differs and he lives an unfamiliar life, and he remains puzzled about what happened, afraid that one of his parents will abandon him, and what increases his concern about Divorce feels guilty as if to blame.

And these feelings are often worse when many children are forced to move to a new home and sometimes a new school after separation takes place, and most families in this situation are subject to some financial pressure even if they have not had financial concerns before, even if the parenting relationship is very tense Or violent sometimes, children still have mixed feelings about the separation happening one day, and many of them have the desire for the parents to return as they were, but it can be said that whatever there is an error or a gap in the relationship and the separation remains for both parents a very important role in the life of their child

* Assuring children that they are loved by both parents:

 It should be made clear to the children that despite the disagreement and disagreement between the parents on many things, the thing that they fully agree on is their love for their children, and each of them must demonstrate this by spending enough time with the children, especially the young ones who have not reached school age, where they need To the more sympathy, affection, and embrace of both parents.

It is natural for children to go through many problems when separating, most of which is the lack of feeling of safety in the child. The child feels that these two people who were the first to know them in his life are the main source of safety and to get rid of anxiety and fear. It increases the behavior of children.

The younger ones, including incontinence, nightmares, fears, insubordination, etc., as well as misconduct and lack of focus in the study.

The risks of divorce on the child

Divorce has a dangerous effect on a child's life in the short and long term

Divorce and parental separation greatly affect children, as the Royal College of Psychiatrists confirmed that 50% of children continue to imagine the return of their parents ten years after separation, the effects of separation and divorce appear clearly on children in the short and long term

* The effect of parental divorce on the child in the short term *

As for the short-term impact on the child, that leaves children struggling emotionally. The anger and sadness here is natural regardless of the age of your children even if they are adults, and therefore sadness can lead to isolation, loneliness, social difficulties, and children may perform less academically, as a result, The disintegration of their parents,

Anger can also increase in children to address feelings of abandonment or guilt, anxiety, or blame, all of these feelings are normal and should be expected, however, if deep anger or sadness persists beyond two to three months, one of the parents must seek advice to the child.

Another important challenge in the short term is that children often think that they are responsible for the separation of their parents, and children are particularly exposed to these types of ideas if they are between three and eight years old, and it is up to the parents to convince them that they are not responsible for the decision to separate between their parents

The long-term effect on the child due to divorce

As for the long-term impact, it is determined that the decision to separate leaves a lasting impact on the lives of the children affected by it, and it is likely that children living in broken homes will suffer from a high rate of drug abuse, crime, future marriage failures, and depression as well.

But it is not only the separation that leads to such results in children, but the ongoing conflict carries a significant impact as one of the long-term consequences for children because the chaos that occurs as a result of the continuous differences between the two parties must be ended, regardless of what will happen, if it is.

Separation and divorce

They will have a negative impact on children, but the longer the conflict, the greater its impact on the child, and this is up to the couple to take a decision in it, either ending differences or separation.

The relationship of the child's age to the effect of divorce

Child's age and how it relates to the psychological effects of divorce

Sure, your children will be affected by the breaking of the relationship between you both regardless of age, but in most cases, the younger children suffer more psychological disorders than the older children, and in some cases, these disorders are evident in the short term such as opposing behavior, sadness, and isolation, and in other cases, it may The same challenges do not arise for older children in adolescence or early adulthood, and research clearly indicates that the better you can make your relationship with your ex-partner the better for your children.

Child challenges after divorce

The impact rate of divorce varies, depending on the gender of the child

After separation, it appears that girls are generally able to absorb shock more than boys, and this appears because they have the greatest emotional ability to digest and deal with separation, even if it is superficially, as this continues for up to five years as boys usually face greater challenges, especially in learning and areas, However, with the passage of time between the separation of the parents for more than 10 years, this trend is reversed, as girls exhibit the greatest degree of psychological weakness and the initial flexible response becomes only at the surface level, i.e. in a simple way, and with the passage of time, the tension associated with the dissolution of their parents casts a shadow.

The effect of psychological divorce on the child

Be aware that divorce has a negative impact on children's development as well as psychological effects

Separation and divorce leave their effects on children's lives, such as the effects of unwanted spots on clothes that cannot be disposed of, children need their parents to participate in their lives, and countless studies show great benefits for children socially, cognitively, academically, psychologically, emotionally, and physically when they remain Parents together in a child's life.

All children lose when parents are separated, they lose access to their parents when they need them, and this loss profoundly affects their development, when the child feels sufficient security resulting from the presence of his parents in his life he is more able to explore, develop, learn and grow, as separation is created when Children insecurity threatens their development and exploration of the world, and instead they drain their energies in the search for reassurance rather than learning, experimenting and growing.

You can be a former partner, but you can never be a parent, you have the right to end relationships but your children have no choice, your decisions have consequences beyond just you, and what is in your best interests is not necessarily in the best interests of your children, children are a long-term responsibility that Parents provide the best care and best opportunity for them to develop them and build them physically, emotionally and psychologically.

Reducing the impact of divorce on the child

There are many strategies that can be taken to reduce the impact of divorce on a child

Dr. Vasu Balaguru mentions various ways to counter the impact of separation on a child so that separated parents can address this through several steps,

 It must help the parents to realize the child that despite what happened, he still has two parents who provide care and protection for him from any danger from the older people and make it clear to the child that he has nothing to do with what happened and is not the cause.

Be clear and honest with your children after divorce

There is no objection to having conversations open with your child because he is here most needing to feel that he is still the focus of concern for both parents and there are still those who hear and hear his conversations, ask him questions about what he loves and what he desires and what is happening with him in his school or in his daily life,

Reassure your child that you and your former partner will continue to provide love and care for him, so what happened has nothing to do with the degree of interest and love and whether it will change by judgment after the parties and the effect of negative separation.

The care of the child continues as it was before the divorce

In addition to what we mentioned, it is necessary to continue spending on your child, and to be honest in the meeting dates designated for you after agreement with the other party, make clear to your child that you are listening to his views but you are still responsible for his decisions, and also continue to do the usual activities and routines such as visiting relatives and friends,

 But nevertheless, he made some changes to your child’s life - and it is certainly positive changes - keeping him slightly away from the change in his life after the divorce, as this will help your child to feel that despite the difficulties, his loved ones are still caring about him and that life can remain so normal Reasonable.

Stay away from matters that increase the risk of divorce for your child

There are several things that threaten and harm your relationship with your child, so you should stay away from them, such as asking your child: "With whom do you want to live my love?" Here you tell him frankly the phrase that there is a big difference between you and your partner as if you persuade him that you will give him more love than the other,

 Also, do not ask your child what the ex-partner does and how he spends his time after separation, do not use your child as a weapon to return to the ex-partner, and do not criticize him in front of your child for his gain on your part.

And if you find it difficult to help your child adapt to the new situation, you can seek external help. Inevitably, your doctor will be able to provide support and advice. Some families may also need specialized help from mental health services for children and adolescents. However, if they are managed sensitively, most of them can Children adapt well to their new circumstances and therefore will not have difficulties in the long run.

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Children view divorce

The impact of divorce on children, their way of thinking and their lives
For example, this is a story of a 10-year-old who talks about how she felt during her parents' divorce,

 She says: "I don't remember when my parents loved each other, but my sister says that this was long ago when she was young and before I was born, my father is no longer with us, because he lives with my grandmother until he finds a new home of his own, and we cannot live with my grandmother is always criticizing my mother and talking about her with the worst characteristics. "

And she continued: "My father always embraced us before bed when my mother rarely did so and gave us an opportunity to talk to her like my father. I do not know now why they no longer love each other as before, I feel that I am the reason for this, after I was born, the love relationship between them ended. And if I asked my father about that, they wouldn't confess, but I wouldn't believe them. "

“My family needs advice, not to mend the relationship, I don’t think it will happen again, but I need to talk to them to know where we are going, my mom says that we will move to a new home and a new school and that my father will not live with us again, our whole life is different now And, I do not think they have any idea what difficulty we have in our lives to cope with that and about the profound negative impact that will affect the entire course of our lives. "

In the end.

 If you regret the decision to marry and you want to free yourself from feeling guilty, you can end the case with divorce and rid yourself of what you are experiencing, but remember completely that the decision to have children is never a matter of regret and cannot be terminated, do in your life between yourself and your children, and if you find that the only solution for you Living a better life is divorce, do not forget your children, and remember that you will make them suffer if you do not behave with them in the right way, and you can always talk to your ex-partner or consult specialists in this field.

Between asking for a divorce or continuing marriage for the sake of the children ... this is what you should do

The option of continuing marriage for children cannot be considered an absolute righteous decision. Separation prefers to use this saying as a reason to live in a broken family. The conditions for separation are many and the most prominent of them.

Staying with the husband makes the situation worse for children

The mother imagines that handing her over to the necessity of staying with the husband is a must, no matter how difficult the family circumstances surround her. She believes that with her decision, she protects the family from disintegration, protects the children and ensures the correctness of their upbringing, but what the mother does not know here is that she contributes, and contrary to what she believes, to make the situation of children worse due to their upbringing in an unstable family environment. What makes them look for individuality, and build walls in their relationships with their parents. As for separation, it would at least provide them with aspects of domestic violence, while the process of raising them is based on compatibility with the husband, or resorting to a legal confrontation based on facts and evidence in the event of failure to agree.

Early separation is better than late separation

Late separation puts the mother in a whirlpool of a vacuum that is difficult for her to easily overcome. Whereas, seeking a divorce at an early stage would guarantee her compensation by looking for professional self-proof in case she was not working, or devoting to social affairs.

• Maintaining a relationship based on respect for the husband

If it is impossible to guarantee marital stability for reasons related to the lack of harmony between the two parties, then the conversion of the two partners into friends is a necessary matter. Separation does not have to be related to enmity, even if it is based on negative facts. Maintaining a respectful relationship with the ex-husband would make him a close friend who is the most supportive of women.

Ensuring a positive nursery environment for children

The main reason for separation may be to secure a positive atmosphere that ensures raising children away from family problems.

 The mother must strive to secure this condition before separation.

 Here, she must not appear in the image of selfishness that wants to take custody of her using the challenge method.

 Because this may be the most negative factor for children and makes them just a paper for the implementation of personal interests and nothing more.

• Ensure that outstanding matters are resolved without anyone interfering

The more the details of the separation recede between the husband and wife, the more the family will provide itself with the repercussions and negative aspects of the event. Especially if the community environment interfered with a view to correcting matters, not being aware of the reasons that led to the application of divorce, but merely to contribute to what they call reconciliation.

• Common future link: children

The mother must design from the first moment that she decided to separate from her partner, to make her children the future joint bond with her husband, instead of turning into contact lines.

This contributes to avoiding all the negative bounces surrounding the separation phase and establishing a new stage.

How to become a perfect father after the divorce

After divorce, both the father and the mother try to maintain a normal life for their children as much as possible. After separation, the primary concern of the father or mother is how to fully play their role towards their children, whether the children are in the custody of the father or mother. Here we give you some advice through which you can become an ideal parent while you spend with your children.

1- Maintain a good relationship with your ex-wife

If you were not successful in your marriage, which led to your separation from your wife, this does not mean that your relationship with her will be strained after separation, especially if you have children, but you must maintain a friendly relationship with your ex-wife because this enhances the moral and psychological state of your children, and you do not quarrel before them. Because this gives them a sense of insecurity, which negatively affects their lives and their future.

2- Share them in their daily life and events

Keep in constant contact with them, share with them their own events and events, talk to them often about their lives and their future, and talk to them as well on public issues, and try to go to take them from school and make sure to attend the councils of parents, that participation will return a very positive impact on your relationship with them and their lives and you will feel that you give them A lot of attention and feel you are a refuge for them if they face any problem in their lives.

3- Set aside part of your time.

Not being able to see your children every day does not stop you from carrying out your duties as a father towards them, try to accompany them for walks and dinners and for cinema and watching their favorite movies, this very strengthens the relationship between the father and his children, and regardless of the fun and play with them you have to spend time with them also watching TV Eat dinner at home and feel that your separation from their mother has not changed anything in your relationship with them and that you are making all your efforts to provide them with a normal life.

4- Feel as though you are still one family

Even if they know that your relationship with their mother has ended, they need to feel that there is a friendly and loyal relationship between you and their mother as the childhood age is the age of implanting values ​​and therefore they must feel at this age a family warmth that is not marred by any problems or struggles so raising children is a responsibility It is located on both the father and the mother and therefore does not shirk your responsibility towards them but make sure that you play your full role towards your children.

Failure to reconcile you in your married life does not involve your children in it, but leave them away from problems and do your part towards them and by following this previous advice you will be an ideal father for them.

The effect of divorce on children ((( Additional problems and explanations)))

  Divorce leaves children with a major impact that causes them anxiety, and they do not find a way to salvation. We can summarize the effect of divorce on them with the following:

  1- Psychological and emotional victims:

  Children are the first victims of divorce, psychological, emotional, and sometimes even physical victims. The child after his parent's divorce falls into confusion and turmoil and little control his balance, especially the child who was raised in the arms of his parents and drew from their love and affection.

  2- The loneliness of life:

  A child whose parents are separated from each other sees the home as a lonely place and often searches for another refuge for him, a place where he finds comfort, security, and comfort.

  Divorce makes the child indifferent in this world and in others. His small, limited spirit cannot bear the separation of his parents.

  3- Children orphans:

  After divorce, children become truly orphans, especially if they are very young, and their affliction is greater. The child is in all stages of his life, and at all levels and capabilities he needs a mother who is compassionate and sympathetic to him, and a painful divorce for him is not possible, he can bear it to reach his mother and sometimes to his father, he must wait Official times for their encounters.

  Sometimes the child may wake up from his sleep in the middle of the night, and he wants his mother, and it is clear what happens from such a situation. This is what happens as a result of a dispute between his mother and his father. What heartbreaking pain is this ?!.

  4- Displacement and turmoil:

  The result of divorce is the displacement of children. Either they entrust themselves to themselves, or they are placed at the stepmother or the husband of the mother who often tortures them or denies them sometimes. After the divorce, the child becomes like a moving statue of the game is transferred from one hand to another as it is sometimes to the mother and sometimes to the father and sometimes to the aunt and the other to the aunt Aunt and at other times in the shelter.

  It is clear from this mobility what will happen to it because it is frequent mobility will be subjected to different and different cultures and cultures, what effect will it have on his psyche and what kind of education will he receive. ?

  5- Sense of guilt:

  Sometimes children feel guilty when the parents are separated, and they think that they have caused them harm, so they separate from each other. This issue is often illustrated by their tongue and innocent words when we hear them say.

  (Mama Almighty, we will not harm you anymore or say: Baba, come, I promise you that we will not do what makes you angry) They think that they committed a mistake, and they are responsible for the separation of their parents.

  6- Confusion and mental distraction:

  After the divorce, the child becomes confused as he loses his interest in school, delays in his studies, sometimes gets sick and tries to find a shelter in which he finds love, kindness, and tenderness, and he is in fact not ill, but he lacks confidence in himself and can not be treated with medication but with love, affection and affection.

  7- Effect on growth:

  Research and studies indicate that the children whose parents are separated have less physical development than the children who live with their parents, even if they did not find either a breeder or did not find a correct psychological education so the mother’s loss prevents the child's buds from opening and leaves a negative impact on his emotional personality.

  8- Pessimistic outlook of one of his parents:

  After the divorce, the child's view of one of the parents is pessimistic, bad, all hatred. It usually tends to one of the two ends. This is not appropriate for the child and the parents, it is better for parents not to misunderstand each other or complain before the child for fear of the reaction that this causes to himself.

  9- Emotional deprivation:

  After the separation of the parents, the child will be deprived of the sympathy and tenderness of his parents, and we will always find him thirsting for passion, so it is not fair for him to search for love here and there and he may fall into the hands of corrupt people, bad people who do not know God and lose his chastity and purity. This matter we find happens in many different societies.

  10- Child disorder:

  Finally, the child whose parents are separated is an abnormal child, mentally disturbed, as research by German psychologists confirms that this child is deprived of emotion and when he grows up, this will make him evil and criminal individual.

The effect of divorce on the future of the child:

  The child may find, after the divorce of his parents, a suitable environment and helpful conditions, so he will not be neglected. And how it fits in an environment where parents are not suitable? How does he feel safe in a house where there are loud quarrels between parents?

  Divorce in the first years of a child's age:

  Fortunately for the child, he does not realize the meaning of divorce and separation, so he is not affected by it, and this matter usually follows the mental and emotional development and the conditions in which he is raised. The child may be raised in the arms of a servant, and in this case, he will not have a loving and friendly relationship with his parents, such as the relationship that the rest of him enjoys. Children.

  In any case, the smaller the child’s age, the question of understanding the divorce and bearing it is less with him, and the parents must take this into account for the sake of their child and delaying their divorce.

  Meeting the child after divorce:

  After the divorce, the parents should endeavor to see their child at close intervals. In other words, each of them should strive on his part to provide him with all the affection, love, and other things he needs. On the basis of studies and research, the results showed that the separation of the child from his mother in the first five years of his life made him a criminal later.

Health problems

Divorce increases the possibility of children suffering health problems since after a divorce occurs between parents, children are fifty percent more likely to develop health problems with their parents, just as children who live with both parents are 20 to more physically healthier Thirty-five percent of children who do not live with both of their parents, children after their parent's divorce are at risk of developing many diseases such as asthma, headache, and speech problems.

 Low educational attainment

Divorce leads to poor educational attainment for children, as children when divorce occurs cannot understand the changes that take place as required, which leads to increased dispersion and confusion, which in turn leads to reducing their ability to focus in carrying out their daily activities, including their school work, Therefore, a noticeable negative impact of divorce is observed on the academic performance of children, and children whose parents got divorced are twice as likely to drop out of secondary school compared to children who live with both of their parents.

feeling guilty

The occurrence of divorce between parents increases the children's sense of guilt, as they cannot understand the reason for the separation of their parents from each other, so they tend to believe that they no longer love each other, as they may think that they have done something wrong that led to the divorce and they feel guilt, which in turn leads To the occurrence of many problems for children, such as depression and stress, and many other health problems, therefore it is necessary to provide guidance to the child explaining to him the real reason for divorce to reduce his sense of guilt.

 Failure in relationships

Divorce increases the possibility of children to live in unhealthy relationships in the future, as the child whose parents have been exposed to divorce are more likely to suffer from the difficulty of obtaining healthy relationships upon puberty, so the divorce of the parents is born when the child reaches a sense of fear of abandonment, failure, and lack of success in Emotional relationships, which in turn leads to his abstaining from commitment in his relationships, according to a twenty-year study conducted by the Public Opinion Research Council; children whose parents divorced are more likely to obtain a divorce themselves in the future.

Also, you should allow the child to tell you about his happy feelings for the fun time spent with one of his parents. The child must obtain the separate (non-guardian) phone number from his parents; encourage him to call him at regular times.

Helping the child to talk about his painful feelings:

When parents are separated, many children become anxious, disturbed and depressed, their tears become close, their sleep decreases and they experience abdominal pain, their academic performance level decreases, children should be encouraged to talk about their feelings, and responsiveness to that is to help them overcome those painful feelings, just as divorce cases are discussed The group at school may get these children out of isolation and save them from the shame of this situation.